More than a month ago on 23rd January 2010 I asked a friend, who is a mother of three, this penetrative question, "How would you react if you found out that your own children are homosexuals?" This is the same question that I have asked myself and others when I want myself and others to imagine a bit of of being in the emotional excesses facing families or individuals who are going through this issue.
Three years ago, in April 2007, I have participated in a very long discussion on homosexuality through an e-group. I have argued that if the legalization of sexual norm is based solely on mutual consent, then bestiality and pedophilia should be legalized together with homosexuality. I was NOT saying that homosexuality is equivalent to bestiality and pedophilia. What I mean was that, if sexual norm in the eye of a country's law is being considered based solely on mutual consent regardless of moral value and socio-political implications, then bestiality as well as pedophilia, heterosexual's anal sex, and homosexuality should also be legalized. So I was not making a moral statement on sexuality, but on a certain jurisprudence or a philosophy of law. And by implication, my statement wonders if jurisprudence can be done without reference to the issue on morality or what is "good".
While on whether what did Christianity in its early stage said about homosexuality, I wrote that the fact that Jesus didn't say anything about homosexuality doesn't make it okay for us to assume that Jesus is fine with it.
If the precedent Jews before Jesus rejected homosexuality and if the early church rejected it too, very likely Jesus shared the same presumption as them. This is known as the 'double similarities' criteria. If there was a precedence and a sequence that is similar, very likely the historical milieu in between these stages does not differ much, if differ at all. If Jesus was positive on homosexuality, it is improbably that the early church would have reacted in negative manner on this issue. St. Paul, Jude, the Didache, Justin Martyr, Clement of Alexandria, Tertulian, Novatian, Cyprian of Carthage, Eusebius of Caesara, Basil the Great, and Augustine denounced homosexuality. Add to that Jesus was a TORAH-observant Jew, then it is unlikely that Leviticus 18 and 20 did not shape Jesus' perception. I'm not saying that our ethical discourse is confined by historical knowledge, but merely pointing out the difficulty of domesticating Jesus to simply endorse this or that view.
What do I think about homosexual relationship? Whenever I asked myself this question, my first thought is always the awareness that I am not a homosexual. This first thought keeps me in a sexually, emotionally, and psychologically biased position. Therefore before even attempting to answer that question, I was being charged with the crisis whether can I really answer? (Not to mention being aware of Rowan Williams' 1989 provocative essay The Body's Grace).
Given my sexual orientation, I have to reflect over Martin Rochlin's questionnaire before any hasty response (HT: Jack Rogers):
So after all these reflections, what do I think about homosexual relationship? I think we cannot undermine any genuine and loving relationship between two single individuals. Nonetheless, whether homosexual or heterosexual, faithfulness to the other partner in the relationship is essential and non-negotiable on moral ground.
On homosexual marriage. First, I think heterosexual monogamous marriage is an inheritance received from Christianity. That means marriage is religious in origin. Therefore if a country has acknowledged this religious ceremony and legally institutionalized it, then the country must not attempt to fiddle with it. That said, nonetheless, the country has the liberty to stop institutionalizing such ceremony and leave it back to the religious community's own purview. Civil partnership regardless of sexual orientation can be the country's replacement for marriage. Yet this also has its socio-political implication depending on each country's different context. So there should not be a one-for-all global approach to this sort of social arrangement.
On church's response to homosexuality, I'll just point to what Tan Kim Huat has wisely said. He does not agree with the idea of setting up a homosexual church just as he does not agree with the setting up of a heterosexual church. Although churches should continue to have dialog on this issue, yet any Christian churches should go beyond this issue instead of getting stuck at sexuality. Add to that, I'll just repost this story I extracted from Joe Dallas's How Should We Respond?':
Finally I want to say that I can be very wrong in my perception in this post as a heterosexual person and someone who struggles much with the broad theological and philosophical issues surrounding this matter. Do contribute on aspects which you think I lack.
Three years ago, in April 2007, I have participated in a very long discussion on homosexuality through an e-group. I have argued that if the legalization of sexual norm is based solely on mutual consent, then bestiality and pedophilia should be legalized together with homosexuality. I was NOT saying that homosexuality is equivalent to bestiality and pedophilia. What I mean was that, if sexual norm in the eye of a country's law is being considered based solely on mutual consent regardless of moral value and socio-political implications, then bestiality as well as pedophilia, heterosexual's anal sex, and homosexuality should also be legalized. So I was not making a moral statement on sexuality, but on a certain jurisprudence or a philosophy of law. And by implication, my statement wonders if jurisprudence can be done without reference to the issue on morality or what is "good".
While on whether what did Christianity in its early stage said about homosexuality, I wrote that the fact that Jesus didn't say anything about homosexuality doesn't make it okay for us to assume that Jesus is fine with it.
If the precedent Jews before Jesus rejected homosexuality and if the early church rejected it too, very likely Jesus shared the same presumption as them. This is known as the 'double similarities' criteria. If there was a precedence and a sequence that is similar, very likely the historical milieu in between these stages does not differ much, if differ at all. If Jesus was positive on homosexuality, it is improbably that the early church would have reacted in negative manner on this issue. St. Paul, Jude, the Didache, Justin Martyr, Clement of Alexandria, Tertulian, Novatian, Cyprian of Carthage, Eusebius of Caesara, Basil the Great, and Augustine denounced homosexuality. Add to that Jesus was a TORAH-observant Jew, then it is unlikely that Leviticus 18 and 20 did not shape Jesus' perception. I'm not saying that our ethical discourse is confined by historical knowledge, but merely pointing out the difficulty of domesticating Jesus to simply endorse this or that view.
What do I think about homosexual relationship? Whenever I asked myself this question, my first thought is always the awareness that I am not a homosexual. This first thought keeps me in a sexually, emotionally, and psychologically biased position. Therefore before even attempting to answer that question, I was being charged with the crisis whether can I really answer? (Not to mention being aware of Rowan Williams' 1989 provocative essay The Body's Grace).
Given my sexual orientation, I have to reflect over Martin Rochlin's questionnaire before any hasty response (HT: Jack Rogers):
The Heterosexual Questionnaire was created back in 1972 to put heterosexual people in the shoes of a gay person for just a moment.
1. What do you think caused your heterosexuality?
2. When and where did you decide you were a heterosexual?
3. Is it possible this is just a phase and you will out grow it?
4. Is it possible that your sexual orientation has stemmed from a neurotic fear of others of the same sex?
5. Do your parents know you are straight? Do your friends know- how did they react?
6. If you have never slept with a person of the same sex, is it just possible that all you need is a good gay lover?
7. Why do you insist on flaunting your heterosexuality... can’t you just be who you are and keep it quiet?
8. Why do heterosexuals place so much emphasis on sex?
9. Why do heterosexuals try to recruit others into this lifestyle?
10. A disproportionate majority of child molesters are heterosexual... Do you consider it safe to expose children to heterosexual teachers?
11. Just what do men and women do in bed together? How can they truly know how to please each other, being so anatomically different?
12. With all the societal support marriage receives, the divorce rate is spiraling. Why are there so few stable relationships among heterosexuals?
13. How can you become a whole person if you limit yourself to compulsive, exclusive heterosexuality?
14. Considering the menace of overpopulation how could the human race survive if everyone were heterosexual?
15. Could you trust a heterosexual therapist to be objective? Don't you feel that he or she might be inclined to influence you in the direction of his orher leanings?
16. There seem to very few happy heterosexuals. Techniques have been developed that might enable you to change if you really want to.
17. Have you considered trying aversion therapy?
So after all these reflections, what do I think about homosexual relationship? I think we cannot undermine any genuine and loving relationship between two single individuals. Nonetheless, whether homosexual or heterosexual, faithfulness to the other partner in the relationship is essential and non-negotiable on moral ground.
On homosexual marriage. First, I think heterosexual monogamous marriage is an inheritance received from Christianity. That means marriage is religious in origin. Therefore if a country has acknowledged this religious ceremony and legally institutionalized it, then the country must not attempt to fiddle with it. That said, nonetheless, the country has the liberty to stop institutionalizing such ceremony and leave it back to the religious community's own purview. Civil partnership regardless of sexual orientation can be the country's replacement for marriage. Yet this also has its socio-political implication depending on each country's different context. So there should not be a one-for-all global approach to this sort of social arrangement.
On church's response to homosexuality, I'll just point to what Tan Kim Huat has wisely said. He does not agree with the idea of setting up a homosexual church just as he does not agree with the setting up of a heterosexual church. Although churches should continue to have dialog on this issue, yet any Christian churches should go beyond this issue instead of getting stuck at sexuality. Add to that, I'll just repost this story I extracted from Joe Dallas's How Should We Respond?':
"Soon, gay people started showing up at [a pastor's] church...sometimes in pairs... The congregation got nervous. They said, "Pastor, the homosexuals are coming! They're coming down the aisles by twos! What are we going to do?"
[The pastor] said, "Well I guess they can take a seat next to the idolaters and the gossips and the fornicators and the whoremongers. Make room.""
Finally I want to say that I can be very wrong in my perception in this post as a heterosexual person and someone who struggles much with the broad theological and philosophical issues surrounding this matter. Do contribute on aspects which you think I lack.
