Wednesday, September 03, 2008

Can Ex-BF/GF/Spouse be Good-Friend?

Yes, of course. Just don't let your current bf/gf/spouse knows. It will takes nothing short of Jesus' openess for your current bf/gf/spouse to embrace this sort of 'good friend' of yours.

The thing is that me and one of my ex have become good friends. There is seldom someone who you are so familiar with and feel affected towards than those who share our life at a certain point in our life, especially when such point is a strange and exciting point to both.

I feel this overwhelming affinity when I talked to her the other day. We talked for about an hour after not meeting for about half a decade. She still remember you as who you were, and you still remember her as who she was. Both of you have changed and there are significant resemblances that both of you are familiar with.

Some sort of 'good friend'. Or should there be a new term for such relationship?


Rachel Loo said...

according to Julio Iglesias (spelling correct??), its "to all the girls I love before..."

the Counselor says "open confessions may not be good all the time" he he he he

but Rachel Loo thinks its cool lah

Sze Zeng said...

Hi Rachel,

Er... I dont know whether it's good or not but it's rather intimate to reveal something like this to friends who read my blog as an update of myself :)

Er... dont know who is Julio Iglesias...


Nalika said...

Yeah, continue to cultivate the OVERWHELMING AFFINITY and make your current gf look like an idiot since she is already sooo damn stupid.

Then you can enjoy the best of both world

Sze Zeng said...

Hi nalika,

mmm...that cannot be cultivated. It's some sort of inherent connection. Like how David and Jonathan were like in the OT.

There are people like that who appear in our life, and then left while leaving behind an image instead of a trace.

My current gf is not stupid. I'll take it that you're joking and not insulting her :)

~ WEiLinG ~ said... is good to hear that u have an ex who has become ur good friend...but but but...i dont think it is a smart move to let ur gf current know abt her being once upon a time ur honey....u know- girls ...erm...but that is only my opinion..might not be the same on others.

Sze Zeng said...

Hi Wei Ling,

I think you are right. Emotions always prevail over rationality when relationship comes in view. And it's not merely women who are vulnerable to this. This is common among men too.

So, ya, it's not a good idea to talk about (or compare with) "ex" in a relationship.