Sunday, September 18, 2005


It had been a while since i thought of blogging about this. The situation that i am in now is confusing and difficult to thread because of my up bringing. During secondary school days, i had always been bombarded by materialism especially whenever some friends bought branded stuffs. I was filled with envy and jealousy all the time right up. The most remembered event that pushed these resentments to the optimum was when i saw one of my classmate's new Honda Civic. He was then 18, while i was 17. Me and Sim Chee Keong spent numerous hours planning out big money plans for both of our futures. Though most were day dreams but what lies below them were overflow of coveting desires.

This habit followed me into my college days. In those days, my covetousness was elevated to a higher ground. That was the time when i was exposed to cars magazines, friends of diverse backgrounds, college girls, more exclusive branded stuffs, and "college activities"'. Things which happened around me was all about hedonism and materialism; even the drive to attend church. Atteding church where the speaker preached about promises of good lives on earth was not helping to reduce my covetousness, rather boasted it higher with fake hopes.

The climax was reached when i was involved in a BGR at that time. The frustration of not being able to spend as desired was burning in me 24-7. Thus, me and a few friends builded up our first business. It was tiredsome to attend college in the morning when staying up through the night to work but the motivation was none other than RICHES. But that business wasnt really favored by my parents especially when i failed 2 subjects in my second semester and eventually all of us decided to close it down and wait until when we finish our studies. This did not eliminate the burning flame in me, instead it was flamming more furiously than before. This was the time when i started clubbing. There was once when i club 4 times a week just to enjoy the my own hedonism and pride, while motivated by those fake hopes that were in me.

My dream of being rich was intense in the final semester. Even before the results came out, i was already attended a few job interviews. But i decidedly to join Starcruises in hoping that i will learnt more stuffs and gain a wider view of the world and of life. This was when i explore more on hedonism. After i ended my term with Starcruises, i started to plan for my own business, but the plan was postponed because lack of capital. That was a desperate moment for me. Then i journeyed to Singapore to work and i deliberately chose a sales job which i am not familiar with at all at that time. I was into hospitality management before that but figured out that the foundation of getting rich is Sales and not hospitality management.

But something happened when i was in Singapore. Besides learning about sales, there was another area in my life that had not been taken seriously before, and that is my spiritual-knowing compartment. Sim Chee Keong introduced me to C.S Lewis during my earlier days in Singapore. I remember having both Rich Dad, Poor Dad and Mere Christianity placed next to my bed. And through the guidance of God, i was slowly molded to contradict my own desires. As days went by, my conscience grew and my identity was in ruin. I no longer worship hedonism and materialism as much. The whole process was painful especially when my conscience keeps condemming even till this day. Though filled with head-knowledge, i was like (or less than) an animal. BGR/love was then instinctual. There wasnt any real reason for me to involved in a relationship with anyone except for sexual gratification. Those who know me since teen hood would know what kind of hedonist i was. I was nicknamed "X-pien Ong" (porn king in hokkien) among my peers during my secondary school days. Friends would started off conversation with me by asking me for pornographic materials. Even though i dont really have those stuffs but i was nicknamed because i talked widely and freely on pornography and sex. I was a premarital sex promoter. I sketched nude. I surfed porn. I was exposed to all kind of sick stuffs imaginable. Vulgarities was nouns, verbs and adjectives then. Ask Sim Chee Keong (a.k.a Jacksaid) for further info. He literally saw through my growth. He was the one who helped me to destroyed my dreams and build up new ones. Isn't it funny for me to do theology now? Many times i think that i am unworthy to read even the Bible.

What a wretched man i am!!!!!!
How could i be saved from God's wrath and condemnation?!?!?!?!?

Why did i bring this Confession up is because in the afternoon, today, me, N, R, AB and K were talking about our past BGR/love. All of us are Christians, but all of our past were ugly, distasteful, filthy, and dark. We shared, and in many ways, confessed our sins. N's testimony was most commutative to mine. I could relate to her very personally. When she talked about it, it was like listening to another person who is talking about myself. And she is now a totally new person. She died to her old self and is now new. That's what i saw in her and that is what i want to see in myself.

My life neither holy nor righteous than anyone thinks. Those who can accept people like me (or us) are very few. I didnt really shared with any of the people in the church about my personal stuffs all this while but i blog it on now. Readers, please have mercy on me. Pls pray for me. I dont want to go back to my previous lifestyle. It was sickening when i think about it.

Things that invites God's wrath (Col 3:5):"..sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed.."<------- i had them all.....

I am hopeless in myself... there is no other place i can turn to...
My conscience never stop condemming even as i am typing now...

The only hope that i can cling to is from Colossians 3:

Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God. When Christ, who is your life, appears, then you also will appear with him in glory.

Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. Because of these, the wrath of God is coming. You used to walk in these ways, in the life you once lived. But now you must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips. Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator. Here there is no Greek or Jew, circumcised or uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave or free, but Christ is all, and is in all.

Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.

Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom, and as you sing psalms, hymns and spiritual songs with gratitude in your hearts to God. And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.

There are alot of times when i saw some of my peers who acted like i was really shut me off. I didnt know how to react. I couldnt get angry or being glad about it. I just speechless as the conscience keep condemming.


Anonymous said...


You have helped me through my growth too...and we both know how wretched ourselves were and still are.

Other refuge have I none, hangs my helpless soul on Thee;
Leave, ah! leave me not alone, still support and comfort me.
All my trust on Thee is stayed, all my help from Thee I bring;
Cover my defenseless head with the shadow of Thy wing.

Nothing in my hand I bring,
Simply to the cross I cling;
Naked, come to Thee for dress;
Helpless look to Thee for grace;
Foul, I to the fountain fly;
Wash me, Savior, or I die.

If you didn't already know, your example has constantly encouraged me and spur me forward. Press on my brother, we shall continue to run together.


Anonymous said...

Once as I rode out into the woods for my health in 1737, having
alighted from my horse in a retired place, as my manner commonly has been, to walk for divine contemplation and prayer, I
had a view, that for me was extraordinary, of the glory of the Son of God, as Mediator between God and man, and his wonderful,
great, full, pure and sweet grace and love and meek, gentle condescension. This grace that appeared so calm and sweet appeared
also great above the heavens. The person of Christ appeared ineffably
excellent, with an excellency, great enough to swallow up
all thought and conception—which continued, as near as I can
judge, about an hour; which kept me the greater part of the time
in a flood of tears, and weeping aloud.- Jonathan Edwards.
This beautiful reflection spoke of my own at church yesterday.

In wretchedness, sorrow
In sorrow, death
In death, truth
In truth, life.

It takes a valiant man to go down on his knees, confessing his wretchedness; begging for forgiveness. Praise be unto God Our Refuge, grace shall be poured unto him abundantly.

- sophy

Anonymous said...

Father, I pray that Ur love and Ur promised rest will fill his being from the top of his head to the soles of his feet. that as he learns to fix his eyes on Jesus, Lord, to look to U to satisfy his innermost desires, he'll not b anxious or worried, but that he'll learn to rest in U and b completely made whole in U. The Lord is seeking to break off any and every barrier & any and every deception of the Enemy upon your life, and He has promised the lubrication oil of His Holy Spirit, and cause the cog-wheels that were stagnant for too long a while to rotate and move again. The engines of your life will and is taking on a new toll. That is the promise of the Lord. May u come to know and experience the fulness of His love and grace (Ephesians 3). May u have the kingdom of heaven in ur heart always, that you'll see Jesus the way He wants to be known, and be moved to call forth and bring down heaven on earth. Amen.

With much prayers,

enn@j said...

your entry brought tears as i read...partly because I can relate to the wretched past we all have, in our own personal ways.

It must have taken you lots of courage to blog such an honest and transparent entry despite the struggles within your soul.

Grace is what we all need and Grace is what we have been given. Anyone who is in Christ is a new creation.

Although I don't know you way back then, I can see what you have now is a grateful heart of the saving Grace and that, my dear friend, will bring you to a greater height in your walk with your Maker

Perservere and finish the race well =) You are not least, Im sure jack will be alongside you

Sze Zeng said...

Dear all:

Thank you for all of your support and encouragement. Nothing in the world is more significant than having a few people who being there to lift you whenever you fall.

May God always be with you all. i would say that heavens are not a bad place with people like you guys (and girls).

angie said...

romans 8:1 there is therefore now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus...